Beginners Guide To Pegging

Ladybird on top of a clothes peg

Pegging has pricked up the ears, dicks and clits of many a sexually curious human. What’s not to be curious about, when a sex act takes everything we were taught about sex and does a complete 180 with it? Of course, that isn’t all there is to get excited about when it comes to pegging. With prostate pleasure, female dominance and role reversal topping the reasons for giving this whole strap-on business a go.

But Hold Up, What Actually Is Pegging?

Simply put, if someone has a dildo strapped to their vulva and is using it to penetrate an ass… That’s pegging.

But, there is substantially more to it than that. It can be a sexually charged psychological shift. Or even an exploration of dominance and submission. It can be a new journey in intimacy and pleasure and the ultimate technique for adding spice to the bedroom (we’re talking jalapeno here). Couple after couple is taking the ‘plunge’ and satisfying so much more than just their curiosity. Pegging is the latest trend in sexy couple’s play and it’s a trend that is here to stay.

Okay, I’m Curious. But Why Does It Feel So Good?

Everyone born with a penis has a gland inside their ass called the prostate. It’s like the bum equivalent to the g spot and hitting that sweet little zone can give pleasure unlike anything the penis provides. Similarly to the g spot, the p spot is about 2 inches in, on the front wall of the anus. Whilst prostate stimulation is more than enough to reach pleasure overload, there is a reason people without prostates get off on anal too. The stretch. The multitude of nerve endings. And the deliciousness of taboo.

So, that’s the penetrated, but what about the penetrator? Whilst it has a whole lot to do with psychological pleasure for the penetrator, physical yums aren’t totally off the menu. Some strap-on harnesses contain a small pocket to insert clitorally entertaining bullet vibrators. There are also strap-on compatible dildos hollowed out for bullet vibrator insertion, upping the buzz for both partners. And if vibes don’t tickle your fancy, there are even strapless strap-ons, so you both get to experience the joys of penetration simultaneously.

Yep, I’m Totally Down For All That. But, What Do I Need?

When it comes to choosing the right strap-on, it’s easy to feel like a kid in a foreign candy store. It all looks good, but really you have no idea what you’re buying. It’s all too easy to want truffles, and find you’ve just bought a box of turkish delight and a chocolate covered cricket. So, here are my top tips on avoiding the turkish delights of the strap-on world:

  1. Start with a harness. Work up to strapless strap-ons once control over the new cock has been mastered.
  2. If you’re a beginner, buy a kit for a beginner. There is a very big difference between a bit of finger banging and a 10 inch dong. Build up is necessary.
  3. Choose a harness with different sized O rings. This will give you the opportunity to upgrade your dildo once you’ve passed beginner status.
  4. A slight curve to the dildo can make all the difference when locating that p spot.
  5. Also look out for dildos with flared bases, this is necessary for anal play whether you are pegging or not.
  6. Choose the dildo together. Not everyone wants to wear a realistic dildo and not everyone wants a sparkly pink one in their ass. Find one you both feel comfortable with, as the design can impact on the psychological experience.

The only other absolute necessity for pegging paradise is lube. Unlike vaginas, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Without a generous dollop of slippery good stuff, it’s going to be friction city up there. If you need to grab a towel to deal with all that lube flying about, you’ve nearly reached the necessary level of ass lubrication. To make sure your toys stay in tip-top condition, go for a water-based lubricant.

One optional extra I love and recommend is an anal douche. This keeps things in the butt region squeaky clean so you can peg with confidence.

Right, I’m Good To Go. What Now?

The first time I tried pegging it was a disaster. Although, a disaster I wanted to do again… As soon as possible. It was kind of like when I had sex for the first time, except this time I knew the importance of communication. Getting pegging right might take practice. It can involve finding the right position and speed, each of which is unique to every couple. There are also non-verbal cues you might not have needed to recognise previously, but that will rev up the romping once you’ve got to grips with them.

Start slowly by inserting a lubed up finger, then two. The ass wants to be worked up to a place in which it’s practically crying out for more, more, MORE! And only then, are you good to get your peg on. Possibly the best position to start with is with the penetrator laid down, whilst their partner rides their ass on the waves of prostate pleasure. Think cowgirl, with a twist. This gives beginners control over depth, angle and speed, whilst also giving their partner one steamy as hell view.

Face Down, Ass Up, That’s The Way We Like To…

For some people, riding their partner can be too intense of a role reversal. In this case, they could try laying back with their legs up and open, sexy ass button exposed and ready to be pressed. Whilst you’re mastering pegging, it is best to find a position that gives you the ability to see each other’s reactions. And yep, we can collective cry over the fact that means doggy is out. It’s fine though, doggy is a crap position for prostate pleasure anyway.

Any More Pegging Pointers Before You Go?

I could talk about this sexy act forever and be a very happy sex nerd. But, if there is one more thing I want to highlight it is that pegging isn’t always what it seems. The pegger does not have to be in the dominant role, the receiver doesn’t have to be ‘vulnerable’, it almost never involves gender play and it has absolutely nothing to do with a person’s sexuality.

Pegging is about pleasure, whatever that means for you and your partner.

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